I'm going to do my best to accurately describe the current situation of a young woman, but let's back up first. My cousins (4 sisters) are a pretty messed up bunch. 3 of the 4 have accused their dad of molesting them, and a different mix of 3 of the 4 have tried to commit suicide at some point in their lives. 3 of them are basically sociopaths. I couldn't describe how fvcked up they are without writing at least 10 pages, but I can tell you that a couple of them shamed their nephew for admitting to his mom that he was suicidal. They told him that he would be a horrible father and that his kid wouldn't amount to anything and would inherit the family curse, and that he should just go ahead and kill himself. That's just one example. The 3 evil ones have all told 2 or their 4 nieces/nephews that they will never speak to them again. Some of the Aggie lawyers might remember me asking for legal advice on property law a year or so ago. I got some good advice on that thread that helped me a lot, and my mom and her 4 nieces were able to successfully inherit and sell their land that they received from my grandmother. However, 3 of the 4 sisters (my mom's nieces) tried to possess and sell the land before they legally owned it (without my mom's and 4th cousin's knowledge), and have responded harshly to the obvious protestations that arose from that, from my mom and their 4th sister. They have decided to die on that hill of lies, and will no longer speak to my mother or their 4th sister, because my mom and cousin have accused them of lying. You'll just have to take my word that those 3 b!tches knew exactly what they were doing. They value money and their own well-being over others, and are willing to cut corners, and even get ruthless, if they feel it's necessary. All of the backstory is necessary to understand who we're dealing with. The cousin I'll be discussing the most is all smiles and kind words, but would cut your throat for $1,000, and then eulogize you with buckets of tears in order to get attention, and then call a high school friend with magazine connections to try and get a story written about her in some sh!tty San Antonio publication, and then display that story and tag Eva Longoria in it, gushing the whole time about how much you meant to her. Yeah, that's who 3 of my 4 maternal cousins are, unfortunately.
I recognize that there are a lot of fvcked up people in the world, and it doesn't make my family special, but here's where my moral dilemma starts. The "sweetheart" cousin lives in a southern suburb of San Antonio and is married to a pervert. The dude is a coach, and was let go from a position in the northern San Antonio area for some sort of improper treatment of a female co-worker. He now works south of San Antonio. However, prior to losing his job, he forged a relationship with a 13-year-old student of his. She took an instant liking to him, by all accounts, and wanted to be adopted by his wife and him. They publicized their love for this girl on facebook, to an uncomfortably sickening degree, and built it up as some glorious event. I've met the girl a couple of times and she is very reserved, but she makes an awkward effort to hug her new "cousins" and "aunt". I feel for her, because she's never known family love in her life, and doesn't know how it works.
Some of us in the family have made the obvious jokes, but it's become clear to me that the situation is more than a joke. The 4th sister, the only maternal 1st cousin with whom I still have a relationship, is like a sister to me. She's messed up in the head, but she's kind, decent, and honest. We've become closer because of what she and my mom went through with her sisters. About a month ago, her two sons (one of them was shamed by the other 2/3 of his evil aunts for being suicidal) helped their aunt with a ride when she unexpectedly had car trouble. They drove her home and went inside, and the adopted girl had her head in her adoptive dad's lap. When they showed up, she got up and moved to a chair, and both of the boys have told me that it seemed a little awkward. This is just one example. The freaking girl sits on his lap sometimes. She's 16. It's not normal. She has been through the system and has been abused, and has biological parents who are bad news and who are in prison. I have no idea what kind of horrors she's seen.
About a year ago, my "sweetheart" cousin found a phone on her. She wasn't allowed to have a phone, and she wasn't able to shut it off before my cousin yanked it out of her hand. After examining the phone, it turns out she had been receiving messages from a player whom my cousin's husband was coaching, on one of his teams. The player (18-y-o high school kid) had gotten her a phone so they could communicate, and was sneaking in at night and having sex with her (she was 14 or 15 at the time). Her foster father, my cousin's husband, was enraged and was screaming things at her like, "Did you cum? Did you cum? Was it worth it?" He then told his wife, in front of everyone, that "this adoption just isn't going to work out". I know that the incident was reported and the player was kicked off of the team. When questioning my mom, my obvious response was, "Of course he was kicked off of the team! But was he arrested for statutory rape?" My mom didn't know, and the details have kind of been hidden by that branch of the family. I don't have access to the people who can tell me.
Yeah, that's horrible, and it's the last thing an abused adoptee should hear. My cousin and her husband are also co-dependent alcoholics, so they were likely passed out while the boy was sneaking into her room. They didn't protect her. I know all of this because one of my other evil cousins was living with them at the time, with her 16-year-old son. He told my good cousin's son, who is the only intelligent member of that whole family and who is a good guy. I talk to him often and he seems a little overwhelmed by the situation, but he says, "Dude, he's totally molesting her. He was angry because he was jealous that she was hooking up with someone else."
My good cousin's kids roll their eyes and kind of make an "I hope it's not what we think it is" face when the girl and her foster parents are brought up. They mention inappropriate observations almost every time they see her. Again, the foster father is a drunk perv and the foster mother is a drunk sociopath, so I don't think anything is going to be done for the girl. I mentioned that they were going to adopt her, but I know that they officially haven't yet. I believe they are still foster parents, with the intent to adopt. I don't know all of the details about the adoption proceedings.
My question is: What can I do? Obviously, I can privately call CPS in the town in south Texas and report the situation. However, I have to imagine that my cousin's husband has coached the girl about what to say if questioned. The poor girl might be afraid to say anything if questioned by authorities, since she's never known family love in her life, and might be afraid of losing her new family. She's obviously fvcked for life, but she'll be better off if she's not being raised by two drunk sociopathic perverts. I don't want to make her situation worse by calling someone who goes through formalities, only to have the girl returned to a sh!tty environment and be punished for letting things get out.
I would like to do something, though, because the situation sickens me and I truly believe there is a young, helpless girl going through hell. I would like some genuine advice from people with experience in this area.
Like I mentioned, I don't have a relationship with this cousin anymore, but I absolutely don't mind being the "bad guy" if it can get the girl help. I just don't want to make things worse for her. I want her to really get help.
I recognize that there are a lot of fvcked up people in the world, and it doesn't make my family special, but here's where my moral dilemma starts. The "sweetheart" cousin lives in a southern suburb of San Antonio and is married to a pervert. The dude is a coach, and was let go from a position in the northern San Antonio area for some sort of improper treatment of a female co-worker. He now works south of San Antonio. However, prior to losing his job, he forged a relationship with a 13-year-old student of his. She took an instant liking to him, by all accounts, and wanted to be adopted by his wife and him. They publicized their love for this girl on facebook, to an uncomfortably sickening degree, and built it up as some glorious event. I've met the girl a couple of times and she is very reserved, but she makes an awkward effort to hug her new "cousins" and "aunt". I feel for her, because she's never known family love in her life, and doesn't know how it works.
Some of us in the family have made the obvious jokes, but it's become clear to me that the situation is more than a joke. The 4th sister, the only maternal 1st cousin with whom I still have a relationship, is like a sister to me. She's messed up in the head, but she's kind, decent, and honest. We've become closer because of what she and my mom went through with her sisters. About a month ago, her two sons (one of them was shamed by the other 2/3 of his evil aunts for being suicidal) helped their aunt with a ride when she unexpectedly had car trouble. They drove her home and went inside, and the adopted girl had her head in her adoptive dad's lap. When they showed up, she got up and moved to a chair, and both of the boys have told me that it seemed a little awkward. This is just one example. The freaking girl sits on his lap sometimes. She's 16. It's not normal. She has been through the system and has been abused, and has biological parents who are bad news and who are in prison. I have no idea what kind of horrors she's seen.
About a year ago, my "sweetheart" cousin found a phone on her. She wasn't allowed to have a phone, and she wasn't able to shut it off before my cousin yanked it out of her hand. After examining the phone, it turns out she had been receiving messages from a player whom my cousin's husband was coaching, on one of his teams. The player (18-y-o high school kid) had gotten her a phone so they could communicate, and was sneaking in at night and having sex with her (she was 14 or 15 at the time). Her foster father, my cousin's husband, was enraged and was screaming things at her like, "Did you cum? Did you cum? Was it worth it?" He then told his wife, in front of everyone, that "this adoption just isn't going to work out". I know that the incident was reported and the player was kicked off of the team. When questioning my mom, my obvious response was, "Of course he was kicked off of the team! But was he arrested for statutory rape?" My mom didn't know, and the details have kind of been hidden by that branch of the family. I don't have access to the people who can tell me.
Yeah, that's horrible, and it's the last thing an abused adoptee should hear. My cousin and her husband are also co-dependent alcoholics, so they were likely passed out while the boy was sneaking into her room. They didn't protect her. I know all of this because one of my other evil cousins was living with them at the time, with her 16-year-old son. He told my good cousin's son, who is the only intelligent member of that whole family and who is a good guy. I talk to him often and he seems a little overwhelmed by the situation, but he says, "Dude, he's totally molesting her. He was angry because he was jealous that she was hooking up with someone else."
My good cousin's kids roll their eyes and kind of make an "I hope it's not what we think it is" face when the girl and her foster parents are brought up. They mention inappropriate observations almost every time they see her. Again, the foster father is a drunk perv and the foster mother is a drunk sociopath, so I don't think anything is going to be done for the girl. I mentioned that they were going to adopt her, but I know that they officially haven't yet. I believe they are still foster parents, with the intent to adopt. I don't know all of the details about the adoption proceedings.
My question is: What can I do? Obviously, I can privately call CPS in the town in south Texas and report the situation. However, I have to imagine that my cousin's husband has coached the girl about what to say if questioned. The poor girl might be afraid to say anything if questioned by authorities, since she's never known family love in her life, and might be afraid of losing her new family. She's obviously fvcked for life, but she'll be better off if she's not being raised by two drunk sociopathic perverts. I don't want to make her situation worse by calling someone who goes through formalities, only to have the girl returned to a sh!tty environment and be punished for letting things get out.
I would like to do something, though, because the situation sickens me and I truly believe there is a young, helpless girl going through hell. I would like some genuine advice from people with experience in this area.
Like I mentioned, I don't have a relationship with this cousin anymore, but I absolutely don't mind being the "bad guy" if it can get the girl help. I just don't want to make things worse for her. I want her to really get help.
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