Got a family friend whose dad almost certainly is in the early stages of dementia. The dad recently met a new girlfriend who wants to marry him, which has my buddy very concerned. The new gf talked to the buddy's wife about how she also suspects that the dad is developing dementia, but that she is in it for the long haul and loves him and wants to take care of him. Well, the thing is, that dad has a decent amount of money and the new gf doesn't have much. Yeah, I know...
The dad has told the new gf that if he was to consider marriage, she'd have to sign a pre-nup b/c his kids come first. They would get everything in the event of divorce/death. My buddy's concern is that she wants to get the dad under her control and control all of his finances, if he's diagnosed with a serious illness.
When the gf voiced her suspicions, my buddy talked to his dad about what the gf had said. The dad got pissed off that the gf was talking about it behind his back, and assured his son that he was fine, which almost everyone agrees privately isn't true. The dad is still with the gf but gave her a stern talking to about how he doesn't have dementia, and not to suggest it again.
I'm not sure there's anything my buddy can do. His dad is quite defensive and put him off about going to see a doctor next year, to try to appease him. But, if he marries the gf in the mean time, i would assume she'd be in control if any diagnosis happened. Is there any way for him to contest a marriage? It sounds suspicious as s*** to me that the gf wants to get married when she suspects something is wrong with his dad. She also told his wife that there wasn't any point in going to the doctor about it b/c they can't do anything (which isn't true) and that the side effects of any medication he could talk wouldn't be worth taking the drugs (also not true). My money-grubbing w**** meter went off like crazy when I heard that. What kind of person wants to commit to a long-term relationship with someone she recently met who she suspects has such a debilitating disease?
The dad has told the new gf that if he was to consider marriage, she'd have to sign a pre-nup b/c his kids come first. They would get everything in the event of divorce/death. My buddy's concern is that she wants to get the dad under her control and control all of his finances, if he's diagnosed with a serious illness.
When the gf voiced her suspicions, my buddy talked to his dad about what the gf had said. The dad got pissed off that the gf was talking about it behind his back, and assured his son that he was fine, which almost everyone agrees privately isn't true. The dad is still with the gf but gave her a stern talking to about how he doesn't have dementia, and not to suggest it again.
I'm not sure there's anything my buddy can do. His dad is quite defensive and put him off about going to see a doctor next year, to try to appease him. But, if he marries the gf in the mean time, i would assume she'd be in control if any diagnosis happened. Is there any way for him to contest a marriage? It sounds suspicious as s*** to me that the gf wants to get married when she suspects something is wrong with his dad. She also told his wife that there wasn't any point in going to the doctor about it b/c they can't do anything (which isn't true) and that the side effects of any medication he could talk wouldn't be worth taking the drugs (also not true). My money-grubbing w**** meter went off like crazy when I heard that. What kind of person wants to commit to a long-term relationship with someone she recently met who she suspects has such a debilitating disease?
